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Hello and welcome to another episode
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of On the Floor with Wayne and Rob.
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I'm Wayne Highlander.
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National Sales
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manager for Bona Adhesives.
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And I'm Rob Johnson from Bona Training.
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I think. We're doing Rob.
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You look like you forgot
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who you were there for a second
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when you were doing my. Show.
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I saw you laughing
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and I thought you were going to yarn
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so I didn't know what reaction
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to have to get mad or laugh.
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I have it yawn today. Have a.
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No no.
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Hey look, check this out.
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Check it out.
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It doesn't squeak.
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You hear anything?
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You got a new chair?
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No, I just used a different chair.
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Oh, okay.
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I thought you doing, like,
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a wobble thing, like. Oh, you know.
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Yeah, yeah.
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No, no, I love it.
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Yes, yeah. Yeah. Happy.
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Yeah, whatever I can do, man.
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Whatever I can do to keep you happy.
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It took three years. Thank you
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already, Rob.
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So.
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So what's going on, Wayne?
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Anything new in your life?
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Well, I was on the 28th
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last week or so.
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I we celebrate our 40th wedding
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anniversary. Rob 40 years.
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Congratulate patience.
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Thank you very much.
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Congratulations. That's.
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You know what
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40 years is.
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That's an amazing number.
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Yeah, I'm. I'm proud of you.
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Thank you.
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Actually, I am more proud of Judi,
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but I'm proud of you. That's awesome.
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Congratulations. That really is.
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Have you gone to a wedding
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and there's a whole
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new thing for you now?
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You ever gone to a wedding?
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And they have
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they say,
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please, all the married couples come out
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on the dance floor
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and then they start eliminating
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the married couple.
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You've been married up to five years.
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Go sit down right?
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Yeah.
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At 40,
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you could be one of a couple of couples
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left up there.
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That's it. Yeah, but here's what happens.
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Yeah,
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especially if you travel
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in the same circles.
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There's another couple
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that that have been married
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like 54 years.
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And I look at them now like enemies.
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Like if we show up at the same wedding,
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they know they got me.
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They got it. Yeah.
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So, you know,
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but so
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but yeah, we outlast a lot of people.
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That's an amazing number, man.
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40 years is amazing.
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I'm coming up on 40
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polling and I are in October will be
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38 will be 38 years in October.
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Congrats on that.
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So what is what is the 40th?
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What is the 40th anniversary?
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What is that for?
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The what do they call that?
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I think 50 is your golden anniversary.
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Right?
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Hold on 1/2.
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Sorry.
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What is the 40th wedding anniversary?
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Nothing.
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Sorry.
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What is a present
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for a 40th wedding anniversary?
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Here's what I found.
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Some anniversary jokes by your work.
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Traditionally,
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a husband would present his wife
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with a beautiful gift
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of ruby studded jewelry
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over the wedding anniversary
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of stunning red flowers.
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Ouch. Okay. All right.
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We able to hear that?
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I heard it. Rubies. That's a good one.
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Ruby started jewelry.
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I got Pauline
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a ruby necklace
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a few years ago at Christmas.
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She loved it.
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Absolutely. Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So would you get her
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flowers?
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Like I got her flowers.
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You got her flowers, huh?
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Yes.
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Were they were they red flowers?
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There may be.
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Well, I love roses.
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I mean, I don't love roses,
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but when I go to get flowers for
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for Judy,
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I was going to say someone
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who else would they get them for?
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Oh, no.
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When I go to get flowers,
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you are always like,
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I want to give her roses.
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Because that's what I. I like.
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Not that I like Rose,
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but I think they're
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the prettiest flowers.
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Are you telling everybody to send
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you roses? This going something weird?
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No, it would be weird.
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So it sounds like
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you did not get her roses on the 40th?
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No, she doesn't like roses so much.
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She likes, like,
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an assortment of flowers.
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And so I got her
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an assortment of flowers.
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An assortment of. Flowers? Yeah.
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Any.
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Did you get her a nice piece of jewelry?
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A ruby something ruby ish.
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No. Ruby, ruby earrings.
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Ruby necklace. Bracelet.
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Pauline loves a bracelet.
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Pauline likes the jewelry.
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Really?
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Judy likes jewelry.
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But here's the thing.
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Judy is very hard to buy for.
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She's very picky.
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So I just,
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you know, if she wants something,
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she buys it herself.
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I don't mean that. Negatives.
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I love my wife to death,
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but if she wants something,
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buy it is way I look at it.
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And I don't mean that in a
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you know while we get along fantastic
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I don't mean that in
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there's that negative about that
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I think gives me so much crap for this
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but my feeling is
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I mean I say, okay, if you
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turned the tables on this,
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if Judy was to go buy me
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something for fishing,
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it's not what I want.
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I'm very specific in what I want.
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I promise
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you'll come back with the wrong gift.
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And I feel like Judy's the same way.
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So if you want something.
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You'll buy it.
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So what if Judy went out
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and bought you
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a really nice pair of shoes?
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I know you're a shoe guy.
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I'm not a she knows what you like.
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I'm not a shoe guy.
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You're a you are a shoe guy.
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I'm not.
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But I happened to notice
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that there are difference maker.
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So I for that reason I buy them.
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But no, I still the answer is no, I'll
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buy what I what I want
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right.
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I don't think that's a bad thing.
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So you didn't buy her any jewelry?
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40 years.
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She's put up with your shit,
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and she.
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You didn't buy her any jewelry?
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Not one piece of jewelry.
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The gift is the 40 years.
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What do you have against jewelry?
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I just don't like. I mean, I.
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She seems like a waste of money
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to me, but.
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But if Judy said.
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Hey, wait a minute, wait.
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Grandpa Johnson
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just rolled over in his grave.
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He just broke that old man's heart.
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Okay?
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When I got married
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during the wedding reception,
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he came up to me,
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put his arm around me,
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and he said, Robbie,
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you can never go wrong
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with buying your woman jewelry.
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Really?
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He
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he gave me that advice that day.
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I was married.
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And it has been the best advice,
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one of the big things I ever got.
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Good advice
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from people
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that was a great Pauline loves jewelry.
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What if I was a fool?
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If someone was to say that,
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you know, it's
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it's.
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You know.
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Buying, like, buying affection
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or whatever, you know what I mean?
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Oh, oh, what?
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I mean, if jewelry was said to me,
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you know what? I love jewelry.
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I really like jewelry,
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then I would have bought her something.
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I would sit here.
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Then what would you like?
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Okay, then once you go buy that,
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I don't understand.
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I just don't understand
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what the big deal. Right.
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I really.
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Do. I listen, I.
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Maybe you're nervous.
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Maybe you don't want
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to buy the wrong thing,
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but you've known this woman for 40 years.
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You kind of see what she's
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wearing, right?
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Yeah. Well, there you go.
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So you get something in that vicinity.
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Nothing too wild.
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So you see me
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walk out the door with fishing poles
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for 40 years going fishing.
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But I promise you,
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she doesn't know
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what pulled away from me.
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So what?
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Not to drag it on any longer than that?
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Yeah,
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I guess
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we'll have to agree to disagree here.
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Yeah, you just.
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Yeah, ladies.
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I know.
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I just,
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like you said, just buying
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my wife's affection, I guess
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so.
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Simple, so easy.
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Says little different
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when he comes back that way.
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Doesn't it, that. Yeah.
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All right.
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Well our show
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today is going to be on
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handling criticism.
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It really is.
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Can you imagine?
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You and I are going to do a show
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about accepting criticism.
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That's the magic of on the floor,
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don't you think?
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Well, I know this.
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We don't take the easy layups, man.
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No, you got to take them head on.
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You get.
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Since the sixth grade, I have not handled
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criticism very well.
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I know that about myself.
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If you criticize my floor work,
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you've just.
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You've just everything.
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You could not have offended me any more
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if a homeowner would say something
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they don't like. Something I did.
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You've just stabbed me in the heart.
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You're dead to me.
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You're it's.
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There's no coming back from that.
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So this one hits home.
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I know that I've it's something
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I've had to work on,
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and nobody ever sees this.
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I mean, you know,
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I'm very good at keeping it to myself.
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When I was a contractor.
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But if you say you didn't
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like something about my job,
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there's pretty much nothing
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else you could say ever, ever
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that's going to hit me worse than that.
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So I did not take criticism very well.
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Now, flaws.
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I was the same way.
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Know somebody criticized.
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My flaw was like,
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you're criticizing
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the way that I raised my children.
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Yeah, all right.
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It was my kids, right?
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But your good
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you know, it's gotten even worse for me,
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is when you criticize my cooking.
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Really?
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Yeah. Oh, yeah, yeah.
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If I'm, you know,
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if I spend 20 hours doing a brisket
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where I'm getting up every 2 hours
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all night long, you know,
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and they put it out there,
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I don't want to hear brutal truth.
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Okay?
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I work pretty hard on this thing.
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And I, you know, I know
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everybody might not be, you know,
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an A-plus, but
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people do a little of that to yourself
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because,
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you know,
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sometimes we're cooking for 14 here.
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And I got some pretty good critics.
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I got some pretty good critics.
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Oh, that rebels.
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Yeah, the ribs are good.
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Little drive over.
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Yeah, I've turned into a real, uh oh.
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I take it so hard now.
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I think it's my age or something.
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No, you're within your rights
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to feel that way. 100%.
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I would, too.
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If anybody takes the time
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to make any kind of meal for you.
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I have every single day.
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I want to tell you what a great guy.
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I mean, why the 40 years
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have been the magic
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that I don't have to buy jewelry
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every single meal.
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Every single meal my wife makes me.
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Now she has to
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because she doesn't have told her
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100 times, you never need to cook for me.
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I can always take care of myself,
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but every single time
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she makes anything for me,
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I tell her it was fantastic.
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I go over the top on how good it was,
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no matter how I feel about it.
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And I swear.
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We saw how
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dry that,
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no matter how dry that chicken was, is.
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A wonderful cook.
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Wonderful, wonderful cook.
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But I always so anybody
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that criticizes your brisket
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they you deserve
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they deserve whatever
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they get coming to them.
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That's not right.
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You made that.
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Know I get you get criticized
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a hot dog that I make and I get it.
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And, like,
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I wish I gave you
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the one that fell on the ground.
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Yeah, that kind of.
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Yeah, yeah. So.
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So maybe,
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maybe we can all learn something today.
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Okay,
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accepting criticism.
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Let's get to it.
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Let's go. All right.
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I think the first
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the first rule of thought to me,
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Rob, is I have to calm down
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and I have to, because I.
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I could go from zero 0 to 90.
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Matter of fact, one night recently, I was
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I was told Judy, I know.
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You know, it's weird.
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I don't
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I don't get mad anymore,
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like I used to like,
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you know, I was younger.
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Like,
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I guess
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that's just doesn't happen anymore.
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It maybe when you get older,
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it didn't happen. And I this dude
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cut me off and I went from
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0 to 90 in a heartbeat.
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So then I thought, yeah, I still got it.
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Okay, I need that.
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I got it.
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There you go.
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You know, a little side note,
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when somebody does that to me,
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when I'm driving, I'm never been a guy.
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I will give somebody the finger.
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No, no.
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And if somebody
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if somebody gives me the finger,
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I must have done something wrong.
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And I'll always go, Jeez, I'm sorry,
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but if they're real long stick,
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I'll give them the thumbs up and smile.
443
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That really makes people nuts.
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But when people cut me off
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truck or whatever, I just can lay out
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just the most.
447
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So many swears at one time
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come out of my mouth different ways.
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I mean, I just lose it
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and call them everything.
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And every single time Pauline cracks
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up, she thinks it's the funniest thing
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in the world
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that I go on these these tirades.
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I mean.
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The last time that I ever
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gave someone
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a hand gesture
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that I remember that I can recall was
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I think I was in my thirties.
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And the reason why it was the last time
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is because in my
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my eagerness to to
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to let this person know how I felt
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and I did this.
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He wasn't looking,
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but his wife was looking at me.
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And she looked like the sweetest lady.
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There was an innocent bystander.
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And she
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I just feel so guilty
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because she probably thinks
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the guy is an idiot, too.
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Obviously, he was dead wrong, of course.
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And
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that just
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hit me, man,
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like man, that's not right, man.
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You know, she was, you know, whatever.
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So that really it was kind of like,
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you know, you evolve,
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whatever you get a little bit
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smarter in life.
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I think that
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I'm not a road rage guy anymore.
486
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No, really, not now.
487
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There was a time.
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Oh.
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I lived in California, man.
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That okay.
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I mean, come
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on, Dad,
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that's just comes with the territory,
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so.
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But I'm not anymore.
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I don't.
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That's not me where I've come down.
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All right? So.
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Okay, so the first criticism
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somebody gives you on the floor,
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what are you going to do again?
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Okay.
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You got to calm down.
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You what did you say? Calm down.
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I think that's what you said.
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Calm down.
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Yeah, I don't that.
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Yeah, first thing
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I tell myself to calm down.
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Okay, so let's call it.
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We'll call that.
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We'll call that.
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You're going to pause
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your immediate reaction.
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Yeah, I go I'll remember that.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I kind of like that.
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Yeah.
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Because I hate
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when people tell me to calm down
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because usually the person
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usually the person
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who's telling me to
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calm down
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is the one who's pissed me off
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and got me that way.
527
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Yes, I. Agree.
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This is this is your fault.
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I'm like that.
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So don't
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yeah, don't tell me to calm down, which
532
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if my son is listening,
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he knows who I'm talking about.
534
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Okay. Yeah.
535
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So there's I tell you what, though,
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when you are mad
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and you're mad at somebody and
538
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and you're telling them
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why you're mad at them
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and they start interrupting you,
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that even makes you, like, ten times
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more mad.
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So listening, let them get it out.
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Whatever that
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whatever the criticism is,
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I think it's very, very important
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to let them go, let them have their say,
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because sometimes they just maybe
549
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need to get it off their chest
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and that's enough for them to move
551
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on, right? That might be.
552
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But but there's nothing worse
553
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than when someone's
554
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you know, mad
555
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or whatever or you're mad at somebody
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and they just start interrupting
557
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as you're talking,
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you know, trying to explain things
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that just all that does
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is just bring the level up
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another ten, ten degrees, ten notches.
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That's an argument.
563
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Right?
564
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Yeah. Yeah, that's an argument.
565
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Yeah.
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That's an are you just
567
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you just started an argument
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with somebody that is, you know,
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could be a potential salesman for you.
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And I will say this
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and I am not making this up, I, I,
572
00:17:15,734 --> 00:17:18,003
I swear, I, I think this is the truth.
573
00:17:18,604 --> 00:17:19,838
I only think I get in argue
574
00:17:19,838 --> 00:17:22,041
with one customer in 30 years.
575
00:17:22,474 --> 00:17:23,809
I really do. I don't.
576
00:17:23,809 --> 00:17:24,777
Once you start an argument,
577
00:17:24,777 --> 00:17:25,344
you are you lost.
578
00:17:25,344 --> 00:17:26,678
You might as well you're done.
579
00:17:26,678 --> 00:17:28,113
Oh, you're out of it. Yeah.
580
00:17:28,113 --> 00:17:29,481
You you get in an argument
581
00:17:29,481 --> 00:17:31,517
of any magnitude with a homeowner
582
00:17:31,650 --> 00:17:33,385
or builder you've already lost.
583
00:17:33,385 --> 00:17:34,620
You are on the wrong side
584
00:17:34,620 --> 00:17:35,220
of the checkbook
585
00:17:35,220 --> 00:17:36,722
to have an argument with anybody.
586
00:17:36,722 --> 00:17:38,957
Yes, yes. Good.
587
00:17:38,957 --> 00:17:40,092
Good way to put that.
588
00:17:40,092 --> 00:17:41,193
You like that, huh?
589
00:17:41,193 --> 00:17:43,028
Yeah. That just came right out.
590
00:17:43,028 --> 00:17:44,129
That that is.
591
00:17:45,330 --> 00:17:47,399
So when you say
592
00:17:47,833 --> 00:17:48,700
to listen carefully
593
00:17:48,700 --> 00:17:50,035
and not not interrupt him or what
594
00:17:50,035 --> 00:17:50,436
have you,
595
00:17:50,436 --> 00:17:50,969
I think
596
00:17:50,969 --> 00:17:51,937
also you need to get
597
00:17:51,937 --> 00:17:53,472
all the clarification of why
598
00:17:53,472 --> 00:17:55,274
they're why they're upset. Right.
599
00:17:55,274 --> 00:17:56,542
Why they have criticism
600
00:17:56,542 --> 00:17:58,210
of what you've done.
601
00:17:58,377 --> 00:18:01,847
You know, I know that
602
00:18:02,247 --> 00:18:04,483
we want to ask questions,
603
00:18:04,483 --> 00:18:05,951
just like you said,
604
00:18:05,951 --> 00:18:08,353
get clarification, ask questions.
605
00:18:08,353 --> 00:18:10,022
Not too many, though.
606
00:18:10,355 --> 00:18:13,158
Well, I would keep that
607
00:18:13,158 --> 00:18:16,328
to a minimum, you know, even.
608
00:18:16,728 --> 00:18:18,030
Yeah, go ahead.
609
00:18:18,030 --> 00:18:20,399
To to the point sometimes where
610
00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:23,702
if you start asking too many questions,
611
00:18:24,103 --> 00:18:25,604
that's almost like an argument.
612
00:18:25,604 --> 00:18:28,373
Like if you're so stupid,
613
00:18:28,373 --> 00:18:29,208
why would you ask that
614
00:18:29,208 --> 00:18:30,542
question type of that's
615
00:18:30,542 --> 00:18:32,644
why we're asking you so many questions.
616
00:18:32,644 --> 00:18:33,679
A couple of questions.
617
00:18:33,679 --> 00:18:35,114
Get some clarification.
618
00:18:35,114 --> 00:18:36,748
That's what I think.
619
00:18:36,748 --> 00:18:37,916
Why are you right about that?
620
00:18:37,916 --> 00:18:38,884
Because even asking
621
00:18:38,884 --> 00:18:40,452
the question can ratchet up
622
00:18:40,452 --> 00:18:41,720
the situation.
623
00:18:42,754 --> 00:18:45,290
I mean, you know, we can all do that.
624
00:18:45,858 --> 00:18:46,525
You can
625
00:18:46,692 --> 00:18:50,062
you can mess with somebody pretty good.
626
00:18:50,062 --> 00:18:51,563
So, yeah, that's important to
627
00:18:51,563 --> 00:18:52,965
to not ask a lot of questions.
628
00:18:52,965 --> 00:18:54,900
Suffocation to let it go.
629
00:18:54,900 --> 00:18:58,070
I know you like role playing so
630
00:18:58,537 --> 00:18:59,505
when can you come over here
631
00:18:59,505 --> 00:19:00,005
and take a look?
632
00:19:00,005 --> 00:19:00,873
There's some
633
00:19:01,039 --> 00:19:03,809
there's some rough spots on this floor.
634
00:19:03,809 --> 00:19:04,877
And your next question
635
00:19:04,877 --> 00:19:07,279
is, well, how did they get there?
636
00:19:07,412 --> 00:19:09,815
Well, if it was
637
00:19:09,815 --> 00:19:12,484
and I'm the contractor, did the work.
638
00:19:12,484 --> 00:19:13,051
That.
639
00:19:14,887 --> 00:19:15,888
Rust but.
640
00:19:15,888 --> 00:19:17,823
It was a rust was on the floor. Yeah.
641
00:19:17,823 --> 00:19:20,058
I don't think it buffed over here.
642
00:19:20,058 --> 00:19:20,792
It's impossible.
643
00:19:20,792 --> 00:19:22,461
How did they get there? What did you do?
644
00:19:22,461 --> 00:19:26,098
What did you do to my floor.
645
00:19:26,098 --> 00:19:27,166
Well, we're in
646
00:19:27,232 --> 00:19:28,500
the process isn't done yet.
647
00:19:28,500 --> 00:19:29,701
We're in the middle of the process.
648
00:19:29,701 --> 00:19:30,669
And you can expect that
649
00:19:30,669 --> 00:19:32,004
until we go to the next step.
650
00:19:32,004 --> 00:19:33,172
And that's why, you know,
651
00:19:33,172 --> 00:19:34,173
it's like looking at the house,
652
00:19:34,173 --> 00:19:35,374
it just has a drywall up.
653
00:19:35,374 --> 00:19:36,842
It's still got a long way to go.
654
00:19:36,842 --> 00:19:38,076
There's a lot of processes
655
00:19:38,076 --> 00:19:39,511
and a lot of steps in there,
656
00:19:39,511 --> 00:19:41,580
but I appreciate you pointing that out.
657
00:19:41,580 --> 00:19:43,482
But you know,
658
00:19:43,482 --> 00:19:44,883
I promise you, when we get to the end,
659
00:19:44,883 --> 00:19:45,651
you're not going to see that
660
00:19:45,651 --> 00:19:46,652
or feel that.
661
00:19:46,652 --> 00:19:48,687
Oh, okay. Oh, this is good.
662
00:19:48,687 --> 00:19:49,988
That was nice and calm, wasn't it?
663
00:19:49,988 --> 00:19:50,889
That was pretty calm.
664
00:19:50,889 --> 00:19:52,090
But I could see
665
00:19:52,090 --> 00:19:53,959
gritting your teeth when you were saying.
666
00:19:53,959 --> 00:19:59,031
I'll squeeze in on this.
667
00:19:59,031 --> 00:20:01,900
That that one was always one
668
00:20:01,900 --> 00:20:03,368
that would really tick me off.
669
00:20:03,368 --> 00:20:04,803
It's funny you went down that
670
00:20:04,803 --> 00:20:06,705
that road like they'd ask a question.
671
00:20:06,705 --> 00:20:09,408
I'm like, I'm not done yet.
672
00:20:09,741 --> 00:20:10,309
Okay?
673
00:20:10,309 --> 00:20:11,743
When I'm done,
674
00:20:11,743 --> 00:20:13,612
then you can ask me that question. But
675
00:20:14,646 --> 00:20:17,082
we're not done yet.
676
00:20:17,082 --> 00:20:17,583
Yeah, I guess.
677
00:20:17,583 --> 00:20:19,952
Funny, I get that in school.
678
00:20:19,952 --> 00:20:20,819
Well, you know,
679
00:20:20,819 --> 00:20:21,753
if we have somebody
680
00:20:21,753 --> 00:20:22,321
who's new
681
00:20:22,321 --> 00:20:24,756
to the business coming to the school
682
00:20:24,756 --> 00:20:26,024
and they're like, Oh, look at that.
683
00:20:26,024 --> 00:20:27,392
I'm like, Well, we yeah,
684
00:20:27,392 --> 00:20:28,860
but I know that's the first coat.
685
00:20:28,860 --> 00:20:30,095
We haven't buffed anything yet
686
00:20:30,095 --> 00:20:31,663
and yeah, absolutely.
687
00:20:31,663 --> 00:20:34,533
Yeah. If
688
00:20:34,866 --> 00:20:35,801
oh man. I mean.
689
00:20:35,801 --> 00:20:36,768
Shove your face.
690
00:20:36,768 --> 00:20:37,603
Down it.
691
00:20:39,104 --> 00:20:39,304
Rough.
692
00:20:39,304 --> 00:20:40,872
Does it feel now.
693
00:20:40,872 --> 00:20:45,877
Yeah.
694
00:20:45,877 --> 00:20:46,111
All right.
695
00:20:46,111 --> 00:20:48,013
So we get get clarification,
696
00:20:48,013 --> 00:20:50,882
ask questions, avoid the argument
697
00:20:52,618 --> 00:20:54,086
that's going to be the toughest one
698
00:20:54,086 --> 00:20:55,153
is just to sit there
699
00:20:55,153 --> 00:20:57,022
and listen and take it.
700
00:20:57,122 --> 00:20:57,589
You know what?
701
00:20:57,589 --> 00:20:58,890
I think one of the biggest things
702
00:20:58,890 --> 00:21:00,058
you can do,
703
00:21:00,759 --> 00:21:01,693
one of the best is
704
00:21:01,693 --> 00:21:03,061
nobody wants to lose face.
705
00:21:03,061 --> 00:21:03,562
So let's say
706
00:21:03,562 --> 00:21:05,230
let's say let's go with the rough law.
707
00:21:05,230 --> 00:21:06,198
Okay?
708
00:21:06,265 --> 00:21:07,933
Let's say the guy feels the floor
709
00:21:07,933 --> 00:21:09,234
and he goes, well, you know what?
710
00:21:09,234 --> 00:21:10,736
But my last floor is
711
00:21:10,736 --> 00:21:11,837
filled with that smoothness.
712
00:21:11,837 --> 00:21:13,171
It don't feel very smooth at all.
713
00:21:13,171 --> 00:21:13,505
You sure?
714
00:21:13,505 --> 00:21:15,607
You sanded it the way it needs to be?
715
00:21:15,607 --> 00:21:16,174
Because, you know,
716
00:21:16,174 --> 00:21:17,643
we got pretty high expectations
717
00:21:17,643 --> 00:21:18,977
and we really loved our floors
718
00:21:18,977 --> 00:21:19,911
before they were nice and smooth.
719
00:21:19,911 --> 00:21:21,713
We just need a change of color.
720
00:21:21,713 --> 00:21:23,181
Let's say that's it.
721
00:21:23,181 --> 00:21:24,483
I see. That's a criticism. Right.
722
00:21:25,517 --> 00:21:26,551
And and
723
00:21:26,551 --> 00:21:27,119
you know that you
724
00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,521
only get the first coat on, right? Yeah.
725
00:21:29,655 --> 00:21:31,623
Then when you put the second coat on
726
00:21:31,623 --> 00:21:33,825
I would then go to that guy goes, hey,
727
00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:35,994
I want to show you something
728
00:21:35,994 --> 00:21:37,562
if you feel the floor now
729
00:21:37,562 --> 00:21:38,363
compared what it was.
730
00:21:38,363 --> 00:21:39,364
I mean, you brought up a good point
731
00:21:39,364 --> 00:21:40,532
because a lot of people think that's
732
00:21:40,532 --> 00:21:41,900
where it's going to feel at the end.
733
00:21:41,900 --> 00:21:44,436
So you that so so he doesn't lose face.
734
00:21:44,436 --> 00:21:45,871
You know what I mean? Like all right.
735
00:21:45,871 --> 00:21:47,005
I acknowledge your
736
00:21:47,005 --> 00:21:47,839
and I think that's
737
00:21:47,839 --> 00:21:48,674
one of the
738
00:21:48,707 --> 00:21:50,108
biggest things you can do
739
00:21:50,108 --> 00:21:52,077
is even if you know you're right
740
00:21:52,077 --> 00:21:52,878
and you got to show them
741
00:21:52,878 --> 00:21:54,212
and prove you right,
742
00:21:54,212 --> 00:21:55,447
that those little wins
743
00:21:55,447 --> 00:21:56,648
don't mean anything.
744
00:21:56,648 --> 00:21:57,115
You know what I mean?
745
00:21:57,115 --> 00:21:58,817
Those those winds can actually hurt you
746
00:21:58,817 --> 00:21:59,418
in the end.
747
00:21:59,418 --> 00:22:01,953
See, I told you, it can be smoother.
748
00:22:01,953 --> 00:22:04,122
It wasn't done yet, you know what I mean?
749
00:22:04,122 --> 00:22:04,690
But if you go.
750
00:22:04,690 --> 00:22:05,957
I know. Look, I get it, man.
751
00:22:05,957 --> 00:22:06,858
I mean, you paid a lot of money
752
00:22:06,858 --> 00:22:07,426
for the floor,
753
00:22:07,426 --> 00:22:09,361
and if if if that's as smooth
754
00:22:09,361 --> 00:22:11,029
it was going to be, I wouldn't I wouldn't
755
00:22:11,029 --> 00:22:11,663
I wouldn't blame you.
756
00:22:11,663 --> 00:22:13,298
But, yeah, this is part of the process.
757
00:22:13,298 --> 00:22:14,633
But yeah, I'm glad you pointed out,
758
00:22:14,633 --> 00:22:14,900
you know,
759
00:22:14,900 --> 00:22:15,967
the guys always want to know,
760
00:22:15,967 --> 00:22:19,137
blah, blah, blah, whatever.
761
00:22:19,137 --> 00:22:21,840
Oof, that's tough on. You.
762
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,875
Would you do that? Oh, 100%.
763
00:22:23,875 --> 00:22:25,010
Yeah, I'm okay with that.
764
00:22:25,010 --> 00:22:25,944
I know. I'm going to be right.
765
00:22:25,944 --> 00:22:27,512
I know I'm going to be right.
766
00:22:27,512 --> 00:22:28,747
I'm not
767
00:22:28,780 --> 00:22:30,816
the homeowner is not going to be like
768
00:22:31,650 --> 00:22:32,017
that.
769
00:22:32,017 --> 00:22:33,218
That one's that one.
770
00:22:33,218 --> 00:22:33,685
This is one
771
00:22:33,685 --> 00:22:36,054
that's always bugged me a lot, though.
772
00:22:36,054 --> 00:22:37,255
The floor not done.
773
00:22:37,255 --> 00:22:38,890
And there there and stuff out
774
00:22:38,890 --> 00:22:40,592
one before I'm done.
775
00:22:40,592 --> 00:22:41,493
So maybe that's
776
00:22:41,493 --> 00:22:42,027
that's something
777
00:22:42,027 --> 00:22:42,494
I got to,
778
00:22:42,527 --> 00:22:42,894
you know, I'm
779
00:22:42,894 --> 00:22:43,962
going to work on that
780
00:22:43,962 --> 00:22:44,763
anybody come and do
781
00:22:44,763 --> 00:22:45,297
the schools
782
00:22:45,297 --> 00:22:45,931
don't worry about
783
00:22:45,931 --> 00:22:46,965
you ask me
784
00:22:46,965 --> 00:22:50,102
and I'll try not to rub your face in it.
785
00:22:50,102 --> 00:22:51,002
Tell you. Yeah.
786
00:22:51,002 --> 00:22:53,038
Well I got three more coats to go.
787
00:22:53,038 --> 00:22:58,443
Yeah, this is a tough one.
788
00:23:00,212 --> 00:23:02,013
So accepting criticism.
789
00:23:02,013 --> 00:23:03,915
One of the one of the things
790
00:23:03,915 --> 00:23:05,751
one of the bullets here was
791
00:23:05,751 --> 00:23:07,919
asked for input or solutions.
792
00:23:09,788 --> 00:23:10,288
Just.
793
00:23:10,322 --> 00:23:12,391
That doesn't work. In no way.
794
00:23:12,858 --> 00:23:14,793
No, it doesn't. Work.
795
00:23:14,793 --> 00:23:19,531
On any level.
796
00:23:19,531 --> 00:23:21,299
That doesn't work on any level.
797
00:23:21,299 --> 00:23:23,502
To me, I don't want any input.
798
00:23:25,203 --> 00:23:26,705
It wasn't really no input.
799
00:23:26,705 --> 00:23:29,341
No, no critical input.
800
00:23:30,175 --> 00:23:32,577
Now the only only area this would
801
00:23:32,577 --> 00:23:34,613
would maybe be appropriate
802
00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:35,580
for a homeowner
803
00:23:35,580 --> 00:23:37,516
is if it's not necessarily
804
00:23:37,516 --> 00:23:39,551
relating to the floor, but
805
00:23:42,387 --> 00:23:45,390
maybe the way that you guys
806
00:23:45,690 --> 00:23:46,691
did something in the House
807
00:23:46,691 --> 00:23:47,492
or something like that
808
00:23:47,492 --> 00:23:48,627
because it's their home.
809
00:23:48,627 --> 00:23:50,529
But even that's not going to sit well.
810
00:23:50,529 --> 00:23:51,396
There's nothing's going to sit
811
00:23:51,396 --> 00:23:54,633
well with me that they say
812
00:23:54,633 --> 00:23:56,468
that criticism that I'm going to ever
813
00:23:56,468 --> 00:23:57,235
because I always
814
00:23:57,235 --> 00:23:58,837
were respectful of the home.
815
00:23:58,837 --> 00:24:00,305
You know what I mean?
816
00:24:00,305 --> 00:24:02,340
I'm I'm not I'm not sure
817
00:24:02,340 --> 00:24:03,675
which is going to
818
00:24:03,675 --> 00:24:05,410
which episodes are going to air first
819
00:24:05,410 --> 00:24:09,114
this one or the crisp free with
820
00:24:10,215 --> 00:24:11,616
charging for the estimate.
821
00:24:11,616 --> 00:24:12,417
But
822
00:24:13,452 --> 00:24:15,086
here we're saying
823
00:24:15,086 --> 00:24:17,422
ask for input or solutions.
824
00:24:18,056 --> 00:24:21,159
He did say something that he does
825
00:24:21,159 --> 00:24:24,262
during his estimate of
826
00:24:25,664 --> 00:24:27,766
what did you not like about
827
00:24:27,766 --> 00:24:29,100
what a contractor did
828
00:24:29,100 --> 00:24:30,302
who work for you,
829
00:24:30,302 --> 00:24:32,671
however he worded that, yeah,
830
00:24:32,671 --> 00:24:35,707
I thought that was amazing.
831
00:24:36,374 --> 00:24:38,276
That question right there,
832
00:24:38,276 --> 00:24:40,278
if you can get that question in
833
00:24:40,278 --> 00:24:40,846
and I know
834
00:24:40,846 --> 00:24:43,582
we're saying this is about criticism, but
835
00:24:44,149 --> 00:24:47,519
this is also that question also can
836
00:24:47,519 --> 00:24:50,055
really take a lot of criticism away.
837
00:24:50,055 --> 00:24:52,224
Very powerful question.
838
00:24:52,224 --> 00:24:52,924
Isn't it. Though?
839
00:24:52,924 --> 00:24:54,259
Yeah, because his question was,
840
00:24:54,259 --> 00:24:55,861
you had tradesmen in your house before.
841
00:24:55,861 --> 00:24:56,928
What did you like about them?
842
00:24:56,928 --> 00:24:58,029
What did you not like about them?
843
00:24:58,029 --> 00:25:00,832
Yes, that's it.
844
00:25:00,832 --> 00:25:02,801
And so that that heads up this type
845
00:25:02,801 --> 00:25:03,268
of stuff.
846
00:25:03,268 --> 00:25:04,369
And yeah,
847
00:25:04,369 --> 00:25:07,506
maybe the lesson here is the conversation
848
00:25:07,506 --> 00:25:10,041
beforehand, before you lead
849
00:25:10,108 --> 00:25:12,377
go down these roads because.
850
00:25:13,879 --> 00:25:15,614
I'm trying.
851
00:25:15,614 --> 00:25:15,780
To think
852
00:25:15,780 --> 00:25:19,017
of any any criticism in my career
853
00:25:19,885 --> 00:25:21,853
from a homeowner
854
00:25:22,254 --> 00:25:24,656
that was ever justified.
855
00:25:24,723 --> 00:25:27,392
And I don't think ever
856
00:25:29,394 --> 00:25:34,566
I am dead serious.
857
00:25:34,566 --> 00:25:35,500
You can't tell me anything.
858
00:25:35,500 --> 00:25:36,368
I don't know.
859
00:25:36,368 --> 00:25:37,569
I'm
860
00:25:39,738 --> 00:25:40,372
I.
861
00:25:40,605 --> 00:25:42,908
I just can't think of anything.
862
00:25:42,908 --> 00:25:46,011
Oh, I
863
00:25:47,412 --> 00:25:53,685
can't think of one single one.
864
00:25:53,685 --> 00:25:54,719
And I will say two.
865
00:25:54,719 --> 00:25:56,187
We had very, very,
866
00:25:56,187 --> 00:25:58,323
very, very few problems.
867
00:25:58,323 --> 00:25:58,957
I was fortunate
868
00:25:58,957 --> 00:26:00,225
enough to work with my brothers
869
00:26:00,225 --> 00:26:01,192
and we had good people
870
00:26:01,192 --> 00:26:03,662
and we really did not have that.
871
00:26:03,662 --> 00:26:05,063
We really just didn't have any problem.
872
00:26:05,063 --> 00:26:07,966
No, not without any.
873
00:26:07,966 --> 00:26:09,968
I mean, you know, sometimes
874
00:26:09,968 --> 00:26:11,102
we would maybe get some,
875
00:26:11,102 --> 00:26:11,736
but it was always,
876
00:26:11,736 --> 00:26:14,806
to me, unfounded and unreasonable and
877
00:26:15,507 --> 00:26:19,244
and that justified.
878
00:26:19,244 --> 00:26:22,080
I got some criticism that I, I,
879
00:26:23,081 --> 00:26:25,083
I brought it upon myself.
880
00:26:25,083 --> 00:26:27,185
It was definitely my fault.
881
00:26:27,185 --> 00:26:28,920
She made every point in the world
882
00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:29,588
and I know
883
00:26:29,588 --> 00:26:31,590
I've told the story on the show
884
00:26:31,590 --> 00:26:32,857
a hundred times,
885
00:26:32,857 --> 00:26:35,827
but that white floor that I did that
886
00:26:36,795 --> 00:26:39,064
when it opened up in the winter
887
00:26:39,064 --> 00:26:40,765
and she had all these black seams
888
00:26:40,765 --> 00:26:42,000
and everything,
889
00:26:42,567 --> 00:26:45,103
and she said, if you should have told us,
890
00:26:46,004 --> 00:26:47,072
you should have told us that
891
00:26:47,072 --> 00:26:48,039
this was going to happen
892
00:26:48,039 --> 00:26:51,242
and I was like, Wow, she's 100% right.
893
00:26:51,810 --> 00:26:54,112
So I should have told her.
894
00:26:54,112 --> 00:26:55,747
That's actually a great example.
895
00:26:55,747 --> 00:26:57,082
And that is you're right.
896
00:26:57,082 --> 00:26:57,849
That is.
897
00:26:57,849 --> 00:27:00,018
Does it just criticism is justified.
898
00:27:00,018 --> 00:27:01,953
Oh, everybody heard it.
899
00:27:01,953 --> 00:27:03,288
Yeah, but it's directed towards you.
900
00:27:03,288 --> 00:27:04,623
You hear that.
901
00:27:04,623 --> 00:27:06,424
Is directed towards you, not me.
902
00:27:06,424 --> 00:27:08,326
It's directed towards me being wrong.
903
00:27:08,326 --> 00:27:09,995
Yeah. Yeah, I know.
904
00:27:09,995 --> 00:27:11,796
I think, like, that would be justified
905
00:27:11,796 --> 00:27:13,064
if I honestly,
906
00:27:13,064 --> 00:27:14,366
if I could think of an episode
907
00:27:14,366 --> 00:27:15,266
like that or an instance
908
00:27:15,266 --> 00:27:18,370
like that, I would 100% say it.
909
00:27:18,370 --> 00:27:19,838
I just can't think of anything.
910
00:27:19,838 --> 00:27:21,306
I. Hear. Okay. Oh, okay.
911
00:27:21,306 --> 00:27:22,140
I had one time
912
00:27:22,140 --> 00:27:25,243
when one guy one time and an empty house
913
00:27:26,011 --> 00:27:26,878
where there's nobody living
914
00:27:26,878 --> 00:27:27,679
there is being remodeled.
915
00:27:27,679 --> 00:27:28,980
So they're not in the house.
916
00:27:28,980 --> 00:27:30,982
We had to hook up to the box.
917
00:27:30,982 --> 00:27:31,282
Okay.
918
00:27:31,282 --> 00:27:32,784
We went through the breakers,
919
00:27:32,784 --> 00:27:34,819
you know, we went to the 220 breakers.
920
00:27:35,220 --> 00:27:35,920
So I took the
921
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,090
the the took the panel up off, right.
922
00:27:39,090 --> 00:27:39,991
The four screws undid
923
00:27:39,991 --> 00:27:41,926
the panel said the panel down,
924
00:27:41,926 --> 00:27:43,328
hooked our breakers into the box.
925
00:27:43,328 --> 00:27:44,095
We're the only people
926
00:27:44,095 --> 00:27:44,929
working there at the time.
927
00:27:44,929 --> 00:27:47,032
Okay. Came back the next day.
928
00:27:47,032 --> 00:27:48,133
He's here with the contractor.
929
00:27:48,133 --> 00:27:48,600
He's waiting.
930
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:49,734
Homeowners upset
931
00:27:49,734 --> 00:27:51,302
that you left the panel off
932
00:27:51,302 --> 00:27:54,172
and that access to the to the panel
933
00:27:54,172 --> 00:27:55,173
like that because, you know,
934
00:27:55,173 --> 00:27:57,475
someone could get electrocuted.
935
00:27:57,475 --> 00:27:58,343
That was a criticism.
936
00:27:58,343 --> 00:28:00,211
That was that just criticism
937
00:28:00,211 --> 00:28:01,246
in your eyes?
938
00:28:01,246 --> 00:28:03,014
Yeah, definitely.
939
00:28:03,014 --> 00:28:05,016
So I told him. 100%.
940
00:28:05,617 --> 00:28:07,652
Okay. Absolutely. Okay.
941
00:28:08,153 --> 00:28:10,121
So here's what I told them.
942
00:28:10,121 --> 00:28:12,123
I don't want to hear this.
943
00:28:12,123 --> 00:28:13,291
You want to know the guy's truth?
944
00:28:13,291 --> 00:28:14,559
I'll tell you exactly what we said.
945
00:28:15,660 --> 00:28:18,863
I said, you know, you know what?
946
00:28:18,930 --> 00:28:19,864
You're right.
947
00:28:20,065 --> 00:28:20,999
You're right.
948
00:28:20,999 --> 00:28:21,966
Now that I think about,
949
00:28:21,966 --> 00:28:23,468
we should have done that.
950
00:28:23,468 --> 00:28:26,771
And and speaking of safety,
951
00:28:26,771 --> 00:28:28,173
I don't think my guy should really work
952
00:28:28,173 --> 00:28:32,310
the weekend.
953
00:28:32,310 --> 00:28:34,446
We're running heavy equipment
954
00:28:34,446 --> 00:28:36,014
and, you know, with fatigue
955
00:28:36,014 --> 00:28:36,815
and everything setting
956
00:28:36,815 --> 00:28:39,284
in, now
957
00:28:39,350 --> 00:28:41,086
that you got to be thinking about safety,
958
00:28:41,086 --> 00:28:45,523
it might not be the wrong the right move.
959
00:28:45,523 --> 00:28:47,992
You really said that. God strike me dead.
960
00:28:48,393 --> 00:28:50,361
You could have just left it with.
961
00:28:50,361 --> 00:28:52,030
You're absolutely right.
962
00:28:52,030 --> 00:28:53,898
Thank you for pointing that out.
963
00:28:53,898 --> 00:28:56,201
I'm going to change the way I do things.
964
00:28:56,201 --> 00:28:58,737
You are so lucky that you got me.
965
00:28:58,970 --> 00:28:59,270
I mean.
966
00:28:59,270 --> 00:29:00,638
You had to come back,
967
00:29:00,638 --> 00:29:01,706
but you're going to.
968
00:29:01,706 --> 00:29:03,007
So you gave me a little kiss,
969
00:29:03,007 --> 00:29:04,576
and then you gave him a slap upside
970
00:29:04,576 --> 00:29:05,643
the head, too.
971
00:29:05,643 --> 00:29:07,579
Yeah. So here's the thing.
972
00:29:07,579 --> 00:29:09,314
The house is empty in my eyes.
973
00:29:09,314 --> 00:29:11,683
The house is empty. We have the only key.
974
00:29:11,716 --> 00:29:12,317
What you told me
975
00:29:12,317 --> 00:29:14,052
was the only key except for you
976
00:29:14,052 --> 00:29:16,387
and we're making empty house
977
00:29:16,387 --> 00:29:18,356
with my people on the job.
978
00:29:18,356 --> 00:29:19,891
We work with these things
979
00:29:19,891 --> 00:29:21,593
all day, every day.
980
00:29:21,593 --> 00:29:25,330
And to me, I thought, you know what?
981
00:29:25,330 --> 00:29:26,998
I'm not accepting that.
982
00:29:26,998 --> 00:29:28,633
But I didn't tell them that, you know,
983
00:29:28,633 --> 00:29:29,701
but I did tell them that.
984
00:29:29,701 --> 00:29:31,202
I do think that,
985
00:29:31,202 --> 00:29:32,871
you know, speaking of safety,
986
00:29:32,871 --> 00:29:34,506
we are running heavy equipment every day
987
00:29:34,506 --> 00:29:37,275
and perhaps working seven days,
988
00:29:37,575 --> 00:29:39,511
you know, for the guys, probably
989
00:29:39,511 --> 00:29:40,545
not a safe thing to do.
990
00:29:40,545 --> 00:29:41,546
And the contract to give
991
00:29:41,546 --> 00:29:44,549
he goes home early goes we come on man
992
00:29:45,183 --> 00:29:46,651
like you know I'm going to work.
993
00:29:46,651 --> 00:29:47,952
So you don't want to show
994
00:29:47,952 --> 00:29:49,854
your appreciation for them pointing out
995
00:29:49,854 --> 00:29:52,390
something that could be a good thing
996
00:29:52,390 --> 00:29:53,958
for you further down the road.
997
00:29:53,958 --> 00:29:54,259
You know,
998
00:29:54,259 --> 00:29:56,227
we should have named this episode.
999
00:29:56,227 --> 00:29:58,496
Do not accept criticism.
1000
00:29:58,496 --> 00:29:59,130
Yes.
1001
00:30:00,265 --> 00:30:01,232
Yes.
1002
00:30:01,232 --> 00:30:02,333
Don't accept it.
1003
00:30:02,333 --> 00:30:04,803
Yeah, you shouldn't have to know.
1004
00:30:04,803 --> 00:30:05,603
That's
1005
00:30:07,071 --> 00:30:08,540
not if you like me.
1006
00:30:08,540 --> 00:30:09,307
Now.
1007
00:30:09,307 --> 00:30:11,142
Do not accept criticism.
1008
00:30:11,142 --> 00:30:13,411
Yes.
1009
00:30:13,411 --> 00:30:16,014
I knew we would have some laughs on this.
1010
00:30:16,815 --> 00:30:18,449
If. The thought.
1011
00:30:18,449 --> 00:30:21,319
The thought of you and I telling people
1012
00:30:21,319 --> 00:30:23,087
how to accept criticism
1013
00:30:23,087 --> 00:30:25,290
is kind of hysterical. I.
1014
00:30:25,657 --> 00:30:29,460
I, i'm not making this up.
1015
00:30:29,460 --> 00:30:32,096
Rob.
1016
00:30:32,096 --> 00:30:34,499
I don't think I can be.
1017
00:30:34,499 --> 00:30:35,433
I just don't think
1018
00:30:35,433 --> 00:30:36,501
I can be criticized for it.
1019
00:30:36,501 --> 00:30:38,937
I should be ever criticized for anything
1020
00:30:38,937 --> 00:30:42,106
relating to flaws as a contractor.
1021
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:44,943
I just don't.
1022
00:30:44,943 --> 00:30:46,244
Now, this should not be like this thing
1023
00:30:46,244 --> 00:30:48,012
where I think this is way, way,
1024
00:30:48,012 --> 00:30:49,480
you know, your 40 year anniversary.
1025
00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:50,081
Why in the world
1026
00:30:50,081 --> 00:30:50,915
would you not buy your wife
1027
00:30:50,915 --> 00:30:52,450
something nicer than that?
1028
00:30:52,450 --> 00:30:54,452
I completely I'm
1029
00:30:54,452 --> 00:30:56,688
100% behind my decision that way, too.
1030
00:30:57,288 --> 00:30:57,789
All right.
1031
00:30:57,789 --> 00:30:58,790
So and I.
1032
00:30:58,790 --> 00:31:00,692
Do not accept criticism.
1033
00:31:00,692 --> 00:31:01,025
No.
1034
00:31:01,025 --> 00:31:01,893
Because you don't feel
1035
00:31:01,893 --> 00:31:03,895
it wants any criticism? Yes.
1036
00:31:04,429 --> 00:31:05,296
Can I put it better?
1037
00:31:06,998 --> 00:31:07,498
Not when it
1038
00:31:07,498 --> 00:31:11,369
comes to, you know, exactly.
1039
00:31:11,369 --> 00:31:11,970
So I hope
1040
00:31:11,970 --> 00:31:15,740
people got something out of this episode.
1041
00:31:15,740 --> 00:31:18,576
Well, we're done.
1042
00:31:18,576 --> 00:31:19,110
Certainly.
1043
00:31:19,110 --> 00:31:21,980
If if if you did, you can call us and
1044
00:31:22,881 --> 00:31:24,515
you can give some criticism about it.
1045
00:31:24,515 --> 00:31:28,786
But please bring it to Rob's attention.
1046
00:31:28,786 --> 00:31:30,355
Is you just wasting your time
1047
00:31:30,355 --> 00:31:31,489
if you're bringing it away?
1048
00:31:31,489 --> 00:31:32,390
Because
1049
00:31:33,491 --> 00:31:35,460
the name of the show on the name of this
1050
00:31:35,460 --> 00:31:37,161
episode is Do Not
1051
00:31:37,161 --> 00:31:39,631
I do not accept criticism.
1052
00:31:39,631 --> 00:31:40,398
Mm.
1053
00:31:41,733 --> 00:31:43,268
So you wouldn't take the opportunity
1054
00:31:43,268 --> 00:31:50,541
to turn that into a positive note?
1055
00:31:50,541 --> 00:31:52,744
I'm being dead serious with you, Rob, I.
1056
00:31:52,844 --> 00:31:53,945
I got to be real.
1057
00:31:53,945 --> 00:31:56,147
I wouldn't evaluate that.
1058
00:31:56,180 --> 00:31:57,415
I love that one.
1059
00:31:57,415 --> 00:31:58,182
They said, Jeez,
1060
00:31:58,182 --> 00:31:58,850
you really should have
1061
00:31:58,850 --> 00:31:59,918
put the panel box on.
1062
00:31:59,918 --> 00:32:01,886
You didn't step back and go,
1063
00:32:01,886 --> 00:32:02,921
Man, they're kind of right.
1064
00:32:02,921 --> 00:32:04,589
Somebody could have got hurt.
1065
00:32:04,589 --> 00:32:06,024
You should have evaluated
1066
00:32:06,024 --> 00:32:07,659
and use that going forward.
1067
00:32:07,659 --> 00:32:09,961
But no, no.
1068
00:32:09,961 --> 00:32:15,099
No.
1069
00:32:15,099 --> 00:32:17,235
I, I've always
1070
00:32:17,402 --> 00:32:19,704
when I when we do this podcast,
1071
00:32:19,704 --> 00:32:22,907
I try to be as as forthcoming
1072
00:32:22,907 --> 00:32:24,242
and as honest as I can.
1073
00:32:24,242 --> 00:32:25,543
And I try to
1074
00:32:25,543 --> 00:32:27,712
I don't try to flowery the up or whatever
1075
00:32:27,712 --> 00:32:29,647
or I don't virtue signal
1076
00:32:29,647 --> 00:32:30,848
that I'm better at one thing
1077
00:32:30,848 --> 00:32:32,016
or the other.
1078
00:32:32,016 --> 00:32:33,785
So I knew when we were going
1079
00:32:33,785 --> 00:32:35,086
to this episode,
1080
00:32:35,086 --> 00:32:36,387
it's going to be a little strange one.
1081
00:32:36,387 --> 00:32:40,158
B Because I'm shooting you the way I
1082
00:32:40,158 --> 00:32:40,858
see it, man.
1083
00:32:42,694 --> 00:32:43,761
One day my dad, you
1084
00:32:43,761 --> 00:32:45,063
kind of remind me of my dad.
1085
00:32:45,063 --> 00:32:48,933
One day he said, You want to look
1086
00:32:49,834 --> 00:32:52,070
if you want to look me up
1087
00:32:52,437 --> 00:32:54,973
and encyclopedia, look under P
1088
00:32:55,707 --> 00:32:57,542
for perfection.
1089
00:32:59,544 --> 00:33:00,511
Kind of man would say something
1090
00:33:00,511 --> 00:33:01,479
like that.
1091
00:33:01,579 --> 00:33:05,850
To his kids.
1092
00:33:05,850 --> 00:33:08,086
And he was so dead serious, too.
1093
00:33:08,086 --> 00:33:10,154
He was absolutely dead serious.
1094
00:33:10,922 --> 00:33:11,222
Was it?
1095
00:33:11,222 --> 00:33:12,023
I have listed
1096
00:33:12,023 --> 00:33:15,159
I am listed under P perfection.
1097
00:33:15,827 --> 00:33:17,128
Was he talking about his floor work
1098
00:33:17,128 --> 00:33:18,563
at the time or just in general?
1099
00:33:18,563 --> 00:33:19,630
He was just talking about
1100
00:33:19,630 --> 00:33:21,099
himself in general.
1101
00:33:21,099 --> 00:33:23,134
So so there's a difference.
1102
00:33:23,134 --> 00:33:24,802
I would never know everything else
1103
00:33:24,802 --> 00:33:25,203
in my life.
1104
00:33:25,203 --> 00:33:26,637
You can criticize
1105
00:33:26,637 --> 00:33:27,805
hundred percent
1106
00:33:27,805 --> 00:33:30,575
what when it comes to that
1107
00:33:30,575 --> 00:33:32,610
what is doesn't pertain to work
1108
00:33:33,044 --> 00:33:35,146
or anything else is wide open
1109
00:33:35,747 --> 00:33:36,381
and fishing.
1110
00:33:36,381 --> 00:33:39,684
You can't criticize my fishing.
1111
00:33:39,684 --> 00:33:41,019
Other than that it is.
1112
00:33:41,019 --> 00:33:41,853
What about you? Sure.
1113
00:33:41,853 --> 00:33:43,287
Can we criticize the shirt?
1114
00:33:43,287 --> 00:33:43,921
What's the shirt?
1115
00:33:43,921 --> 00:33:45,923
Say the shirts. Beautiful says
1116
00:33:47,692 --> 00:33:48,226
oh, salt.
1117
00:33:48,226 --> 00:33:50,928
Like salt life. Yeah.
1118
00:33:51,462 --> 00:33:53,998
You spend a lot of time at the beach
1119
00:33:53,998 --> 00:33:54,699
do you.
1120
00:33:54,932 --> 00:33:56,567
Mm. No.
1121
00:33:56,567 --> 00:33:58,736
You know that would salt.
1122
00:33:58,736 --> 00:34:00,638
Isn't that what the salt life is.
1123
00:34:00,638 --> 00:34:01,773
Yeah. No it's you mentioned it.
1124
00:34:01,773 --> 00:34:02,807
I'm like the last person,
1125
00:34:02,807 --> 00:34:04,509
the world, they represent salt life.
1126
00:34:04,509 --> 00:34:05,343
Salt life.
1127
00:34:05,343 --> 00:34:07,779
A lot of time at the beach. Tanning.
1128
00:34:07,779 --> 00:34:09,781
Yeah. Bronzing up.
1129
00:34:09,781 --> 00:34:12,150
Yeah, yeah,
1130
00:34:12,150 --> 00:34:12,917
yeah.
1131
00:34:13,117 --> 00:34:14,052
All right.
1132
00:34:14,052 --> 00:34:15,586
I think we had a shirt or somebody
1133
00:34:15,586 --> 00:34:16,487
give it to you.
1134
00:34:16,587 --> 00:34:18,423
I bought it in San Diego
1135
00:34:18,423 --> 00:34:19,824
because I needed the shirt on the road.
1136
00:34:19,824 --> 00:34:22,560
And ever done that, you end up short.
1137
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:23,995
Yes. Traveling.
1138
00:34:23,995 --> 00:34:25,296
And you don't have something
1139
00:34:25,296 --> 00:34:27,398
you left behind or whatever and. Mm hmm.
1140
00:34:27,865 --> 00:34:30,201
Yeah. This was one of those occasions.
1141
00:34:30,201 --> 00:34:30,902
So.
1142
00:34:30,968 --> 00:34:35,440
So you bought her flowers for the 40th,
1143
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,042
and that was it. Just flowers? No card.
1144
00:34:38,042 --> 00:34:39,811
I got her card. Where'd you get it?
1145
00:34:41,312 --> 00:34:43,347
I got the card at Wal-Mart,
1146
00:34:44,115 --> 00:34:46,117
and I got the flowers at Food City.
1147
00:34:47,185 --> 00:34:47,518
Was it
1148
00:34:47,518 --> 00:34:49,087
the day of your anniversary
1149
00:34:49,087 --> 00:34:50,555
or was it like a couple of days
1150
00:34:50,555 --> 00:34:51,889
before now?
1151
00:34:51,889 --> 00:34:52,990
Okay, here's the deal with you.
1152
00:34:52,990 --> 00:34:56,060
You seemed to be mad
1153
00:34:56,060 --> 00:34:58,196
like the minute I woke up,
1154
00:34:59,630 --> 00:35:00,898
you know, all through our marriage,
1155
00:35:00,898 --> 00:35:01,632
like anniversary
1156
00:35:01,632 --> 00:35:03,534
or birthday or whatever, or no Christmas
1157
00:35:03,534 --> 00:35:04,735
or Valentine's Day.
1158
00:35:04,735 --> 00:35:05,970
Like the second I got out of bed,
1159
00:35:05,970 --> 00:35:07,572
she would hand me a card.
1160
00:35:07,572 --> 00:35:10,108
Hey, are like.
1161
00:35:11,008 --> 00:35:11,742
You can't.
1162
00:35:11,742 --> 00:35:12,310
You know what I mean?
1163
00:35:12,310 --> 00:35:12,810
That should be done,
1164
00:35:12,810 --> 00:35:13,778
like in the afternoon
1165
00:35:13,778 --> 00:35:14,745
when we get home from work,
1166
00:35:14,745 --> 00:35:15,880
you know what I mean?
1167
00:35:15,980 --> 00:35:16,781
So now I was like,
1168
00:35:16,781 --> 00:35:17,248
okay, well,
1169
00:35:17,248 --> 00:35:18,583
I don't have to give you your job
1170
00:35:18,583 --> 00:35:19,350
because I have
1171
00:35:19,350 --> 00:35:20,918
to have to work and get one.
1172
00:35:20,918 --> 00:35:22,286
So what?
1173
00:35:22,286 --> 00:35:23,688
I set my alarm for 7 a.m.
1174
00:35:23,688 --> 00:35:24,489
because I knew I was going to get it
1175
00:35:24,489 --> 00:35:25,256
for her
1176
00:35:25,256 --> 00:35:26,657
and I went, this was on a Saturday
1177
00:35:26,657 --> 00:35:28,993
and I went to went there and got it
1178
00:35:28,993 --> 00:35:31,129
and came back and I so I had it.
1179
00:35:31,129 --> 00:35:33,331
I covered myself. Okay, that's good.
1180
00:35:34,432 --> 00:35:35,433
You see?
1181
00:35:35,433 --> 00:35:36,367
Yeah. There you go.
1182
00:35:36,367 --> 00:35:39,036
You can change.
1183
00:35:39,036 --> 00:35:40,972
You didn't want to get burned, but
1184
00:35:40,972 --> 00:35:42,039
so you go to Wal-Mart,
1185
00:35:42,039 --> 00:35:43,207
you get to the card there,
1186
00:35:43,207 --> 00:35:45,009
and then you go to Food City
1187
00:35:45,009 --> 00:35:48,146
and you get her some flowers
1188
00:35:48,212 --> 00:35:49,413
and we're rotisserie
1189
00:35:49,413 --> 00:35:52,350
chicken or something, you know,
1190
00:35:52,717 --> 00:35:54,819
bought her flowers, food, said no.
1191
00:35:54,819 --> 00:35:57,155
Florist where you live now? Now.
1192
00:35:57,488 --> 00:35:58,022
What's your.
1193
00:35:58,022 --> 00:35:58,689
What more
1194
00:35:58,689 --> 00:36:01,526
do you know her favorite flower.
1195
00:36:01,526 --> 00:36:02,593
She likes?
1196
00:36:02,627 --> 00:36:05,530
Like a bouquet of flowers, like like.
1197
00:36:05,530 --> 00:36:06,898
And that roses she didn't like, rose
1198
00:36:06,898 --> 00:36:08,566
like a bunch of different flowers.
1199
00:36:08,566 --> 00:36:09,934
Okay. Yeah. So.
1200
00:36:09,934 --> 00:36:12,537
Well, at. Least you did that. Yeah.
1201
00:36:12,537 --> 00:36:14,939
And you don't give gifts.
1202
00:36:15,173 --> 00:36:17,241
You're not a gift guy.
1203
00:36:17,241 --> 00:36:18,743
Who would I give a gift to?
1204
00:36:18,743 --> 00:36:20,144
Okay, listen,
1205
00:36:20,144 --> 00:36:21,145
you know what the last kiss
1206
00:36:21,145 --> 00:36:22,346
gift ever gave to anybody.
1207
00:36:22,346 --> 00:36:23,147
Can you guess? It was.
1208
00:36:24,482 --> 00:36:25,383
Duty.
1209
00:36:25,550 --> 00:36:26,551
It was me.
1210
00:36:26,551 --> 00:36:28,653
Me? Yeah, you can scooper.
1211
00:36:28,986 --> 00:36:29,587
That's it.
1212
00:36:29,587 --> 00:36:31,255
Yes, but I don't as a rule,
1213
00:36:31,255 --> 00:36:33,391
who would I buy gifts for?
1214
00:36:33,391 --> 00:36:34,692
Well, you can send me more gifts,
1215
00:36:34,692 --> 00:36:35,626
I guess.
1216
00:36:35,626 --> 00:36:36,661
I don't have any kids
1217
00:36:36,661 --> 00:36:39,864
and I never give a girl man a gift.
1218
00:36:39,864 --> 00:36:40,765
I don't know.
1219
00:36:40,932 --> 00:36:42,300
Nor would I expect one.
1220
00:36:42,300 --> 00:36:42,733
All right.
1221
00:36:42,733 --> 00:36:44,802
We're getting off topic next week.
1222
00:36:44,802 --> 00:36:50,975
Oh, what a surprise.
1223
00:36:50,975 --> 00:36:51,576
All right.
1224
00:36:51,576 --> 00:36:53,311
This show is.
1225
00:36:54,378 --> 00:36:56,147
I don't take criticism.
1226
00:36:56,147 --> 00:36:59,350
Yeah, and I am accepting criticism.
1227
00:36:59,951 --> 00:37:00,685
Yeah.
1228
00:37:00,751 --> 00:37:02,520
And did anything resonate
1229
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:05,223
in this show for you?
1230
00:37:05,223 --> 00:37:07,358
Well, I already know certain things like
1231
00:37:07,358 --> 00:37:08,793
listen closely. That's a given.
1232
00:37:08,793 --> 00:37:10,828
Avoid arguing. I would never argue.
1233
00:37:10,828 --> 00:37:11,829
Like I said, in 40
1234
00:37:11,829 --> 00:37:13,364
or 30 years of doing floor,
1235
00:37:13,364 --> 00:37:15,099
I think one time I ever got an argument
1236
00:37:16,367 --> 00:37:16,734
so you can
1237
00:37:16,734 --> 00:37:19,770
imagine how right I was.
1238
00:37:19,770 --> 00:37:22,406
Get clarification you put down. Yeah.
1239
00:37:22,740 --> 00:37:24,442
To talk about I'll ask for input.
1240
00:37:24,442 --> 00:37:26,777
I don't think that's ever warranted.
1241
00:37:27,812 --> 00:37:30,281
Evaluate changes after the conversation.
1242
00:37:31,082 --> 00:37:33,084
No. No, we're good.
1243
00:37:33,484 --> 00:37:34,819
I think I'm good.
1244
00:37:35,486 --> 00:37:36,187
Yeah.
1245
00:37:36,220 --> 00:37:37,688
I think you're changing, though.
1246
00:37:37,688 --> 00:37:39,023
I don't really think you realize it.
1247
00:37:39,023 --> 00:37:40,224
You got up,
1248
00:37:40,691 --> 00:37:42,593
got her the card before she got up
1249
00:37:42,593 --> 00:37:43,794
because you knew
1250
00:37:43,794 --> 00:37:45,062
she was going to slap something on.
1251
00:37:45,062 --> 00:37:47,465
Yeah. So good man. In smarter.
1252
00:37:47,865 --> 00:37:50,201
You are all. Right, Rob.
1253
00:37:50,201 --> 00:37:52,270
I think we knocked it out of the park
1254
00:37:52,270 --> 00:37:55,239
as usual.
1255
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:56,140
All right.
1256
00:37:56,140 --> 00:37:57,241
It's been another episode
1257
00:37:57,241 --> 00:37:59,043
of On the Floor with Wayne and Rob.
1258
00:37:59,043 --> 00:38:09,420
Please stay tuned for another episode.